This is a write up published in Cebu Daily News that I have saved and mounted on a blank sketch page of a sketch pad. It is written by Jason Baguia. I was unable to get the date it was printed but I got the author. The first time I read this, I was fascinated. As I read along it was worth more than a few nods in agreement with what it says. I am going to share this with you in the hope that this can also inspire you as it inspired me.
This is about what love is and is not.
It’s not love if it stands on some reason. “I love you because you’re good” will logically end with “I don’t love you anymore ‘cause you’re not good anymore”.
It’s not love if it seeks to be loved. Love seeks nothing but to love.
It’s not love if it craves comfort, for then it cannot withstand the adventurous twists and turns of a genuine loving relationship.
It’s not love if it thinks it already knows the other thoroughly. Love recognizes that people are forever becoming.
It’s not love if it clings. Distance destroys not love.
It’s not love if it seeks recognition and appreciation. It’s not attention deficit problem.
It’s not love if it expects anything in return. That’s what business ventures were created for: returns of investment. Love is not an investment. It is a freely given gift.
It’s not love if it has no gut certainty of being there forever. Love is not a feeling that comes and goes with the changes of mood, time and other circumstance. Love is the ever-fresh constant. Love that ends never was.
It’s not love if it grows stale with the passage of time.
It’s not love if it gets turned off by the imperfections of the other. Love loves what is likeable, and is powerful enough to transform for the better what is not likeable in the beloved.
It’s not love if it stops at the point of hatred.
It’s not love if it compromises its morals for the sake of “loving”. Love being good uses good means for its ends.
It’s not love if it seeks to preserve the moment. Love does not fixate. It is forward-looking because it is confident that things can only get better no matter how difficult or great they may appear.
It’s not love if it can’t depart from a depression. Love sees the value of striving to live and move on because there are so many waiting for love.
It’s not love if it chooses whom to love. That’s what is called discrimination.
It’s not love if it cannot forgive and forget. Love is the advocate par excellence of genuine reconciliation and is always excited with new beginnings.
It’s not love if it does not strike a balance between frankness and gentleness in correcting another.
It’s not love if it is driven by fear.
It’s not love if it suppresses itself.
It's not love if it can't take risks. a lover once said, " Love is having nothing you are unwilling to part with but everything given to the one loved."
It's not love if it cannot smile.
It's not love if it cannot die for the loved one when the need arises. At the same time, it's not love if it cannot live well for the sake of the loved one. The smart lover will figure out that she has to live well in order to love well.
Finally, it's not love if it does not pray. Love is purified and made stronger in prayer with God. No apologies to the atheists and agnostics.
Now go. Love.
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